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I don't want to play games. I am not looking for games. I am looking for something real.

How many times have you said these words? Probably many.

Here’s something radical: STOP. Play the game. If you want to attract the ideal person into your life or grow an existing relationship, then you MUST play the game.

Yes, that’s right, play the game. Let me explain why you have to play and what makes this game unique.

You can think about this like a poker hand. If you show all of your cards right away, you lose. To be an effective player, you need to keep the tension strong and reveal your cards slowly. In dating, here’s how this analogy works:

  • Do not give up on yourself. If you are looking for something serious and the person you are dating is not, you should walk away. If you continue dating under these circumstances, you may begin to resent yourself, or worse, convince yourself that the more you date, the more likely it is that a relationship will blossom. This is not true. Generally, it results in the other person taking you for granted or treating you poorly. You deserve better.

  • Stop sacrificing. Do not drive 30 minutes to buy lunch for a person after having been on only one date. Do not buy presents for someone you have just met or started dating. Do not