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We tend to look for red flags in a potential partner. Especially if we have been hurt before. We want to ensure that we “will play it safe” this time. This is true, I do agree that if we have been hurt before we probably want to learn from that and make sure that for the future we will pick a partner who is a good fit for us.

But, our thoughts have more effect on our life than we know. This means that negativity will surround my life if I am constantly viewing the glass of life as half empty. My thoughts have the power to attract things into my life, bad or good.

That said, let's talk about green flags to look for in a partner rather than red flags.

These 8 green flags can indicate you are with the right person:

  1. Trust each other - trusting your partner means you can rely on them, and you feel safe being with them, emotionally, physically, and mentally. You are giving trust no matter where they are or with who they are spending their time when they are not around you. When you are doing what you said you will and saying what you will do, you are building trust between you.

  2. Emotional intimacy - emotional intimacy is the closeness you are sharing. You are feeling free and secure to express your fears, apprehensions, your scars, “defects”, and weaknesses, without feeling shame or humiliated. You feel love and appreciated, you are receiving validation for your feelings from your partner. You have the ability to share your true self, your core, and the deepest hidden feelings with them. You both feel equal and accept each other, with their strengths and weaknesses.

  3. Physicality - you feel close and open enough with your partner, and that brings pleasure and joy to your relationship. When you are sharing emotional intimacy, you feel free to express your desire and sexual fantasies with each other.

  4. Open and clear communicatio